Parent First,
ADHD Later
A practical parenting guide for teens and young adults with ADHD. Discover evidence-based parenting strategies for ADHD teens from a lived experience perspective backed by research and input from the ADHD community in Singapore.
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Limited Charity Edition — 500 copies only
Parenting Strategies for ADHD Teens and Young Adults
Parenting children with ADHD isn't about following a single roadmap. It's about navigating the moments as they come — and those moments don't always make sense. Discover practical parenting strategies for neurodivergent youth.
There are moments in parenting that feel like a hard puzzle.
Sometimes frustrating, sometimes surprising, always shifting. These moments shape the rhythm of ADHD parenting.
"The truth is, ADHD isn't just about effort. It's about how the brain processes time, motivation, and emotions in ways that can feel unpredictable. What looks like avoidance might be executive function overload. What seems like an excuse might be genuine frustration with their own limits."
This book offers practical parenting strategies for ADHD families, not rigid solutions. It's a guide through the real, lived experience of parenting teens and young adults with ADHD in Singapore, moment by moment.
In This Book, You'll Find:
Chapters exploring real ADHD parenting moments:
Waking Up Is Not Simple
'I Can't Do This Today'
Parent & Teen Talk
Homework Standoff
Energy in the Home
Late Night Rushing
A Loop of Dopamine
Struggles with Sleep
Each chapter includes Why This Happens, Tools, Flowcharts, and Caring for You sections.
Bonus Sections: Moonlake Lee shares her perspective on ADHD parenting, provides ADHD 101 basics and resources for further support
How This Book Came to Life
"Parent First, ADHD Later" was built through extensive research on ADHD parenting, a survey of the Singapore ADHD community and focus group discussions of parents and youths. It first started off as Jerome's Industrial Design undergraduate thesis project where Jerome received input to support his research from clinicians at the Institute of Mental Health (IMH), and the two ADHD charities — Unlocking ADHD and SPARK.
The guidebook also won the Design Business Chamber Singapore (DBCS) Top Seed Award in 2025. The encouraging feedback from parents and clinicians who read the original version of Jerome's thesis and found it practical and impactful, prompted Jerome to seek to publish the book so that it could be accessed by a wider audience.
Moonlake Lee, who was providing guidance to Jerome in his research, thought it would be impactful to caregivers, professionals and educators to be able to understand the dynamics of the ADHD mind in a more relatable yet evidence-based manner. She also contributed sections on the parenting perspective, basic ADHD information and resources to provide the larger context for the situations addressed in the book.
The book is published by Transforming Lives, a social enterprise, as part of its mission of capability development and psychoeducation in the area of neurodivergence, executive function and relationships.
The Framework
The book sets out 3 universal principles and 9 situation-specific principles as a framework to help parents gain insight and provides tools for 8 common situations of conflict between parents and their ADHD teens.
As an acknowledgement to the two ADHD charities who have supported Jerome in his research, and to further amplify the good work that the charities are doing, Transforming Lives will be donating 50% of net proceeds of the initial run of 500 soft cover copies of the book to the two ADHD charities.
Voices of Lived Experience
Jerome J Wong
Jerome J Wong is a law student, industrial design graduate, and author whose ADHD journey has deeply informed both his creative process and his perspective on life. His ideas behind "Parent First, ADHD Later" grew out of an award-winning thesis project exploring how parents can better understand and support teens with ADHD.
Drawing from design, research, and lived experience, Jerome is passionate about translating complexity into clarity and creating tools that are practical, empathetic, and visually engaging. He sees ADHD not as a deficit, but as a different wiring that can foster innovation, insight, and meaningful change.
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Moonlake Lee
Moonlake Lee is the contributing author of this ADHD parenting guide and the Founder of Unlocking ADHD, a registered IPC charity in Singapore. Diagnosed with ADHD later in life (after her teenage daughter was also diagnosed), Moonlake Lee's journey has shaped her mission to support neurodivergent youth, ADHD families, and parents with greater understanding, hope, and practical parenting strategies.
With a background spanning journalism, law, business, and technology law—plus experience as a lawyer, investor, and entrepreneur—Moonlake brings an unusual blend of strategic thinking, lived experience, and heartfelt advocacy to her work. She is also the Founder and CEO of Transforming Lives, a social enterprise providing consulting, capability development, and psychoeducation in neurodivergence, executive function and relationships through a strengths-based lens.
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This special launch charity edition is limited to 500 soft cover copies. 50% of net proceeds support two organizations dedicated to empowering the ADHD community - Unlocking ADHD and SPARK Singapore
500 Soft Cover Copies
Limited edition, special print run for the launch
50% of Net Proceeds
Donated to support two ADHD charities
Direct Impact
Every purchase helps to support ongoing programmes for ADHD families
Unlocking ADHD
Supporting teens, young adults with ADHD and their families
Singapore's only IPC-registered ADHD charity empowering neurodivergent youth, young adults, and ADHD families to live life to the fullest.
SPARK Singapore
Supporting parents and families of children and teens with ADHD
A leading ADHD charity supporting families since 2000, providing parenting strategies, parent support groups and resources for children with ADHD.
Praise for the Book
Based on 4 verified reviews
4 Trusted Voices
Parents, youth & professionals
"What I love about this book: ADHD-friendly, Visually-friendly, Easy, applicable strategies where a lot of the tools are simple enough to use immediately — not just good ideas, but doable actions, Tool library style and addresses common ADHD struggles. The book covers the challenges people actually experience day-to-day (not just the textbook version of ADHD)."
Shyla Mathews
Executive Function Coach & Education Therapist, NICE Executive Function Coaching & Educational Therapy
"Jerome is incredibly insightful - He can put all the various compelling issues into clear and yet connected topics, and work out the whys and hows to navigate each one. This gives a good handle for us to reach for in each situation we are in, without feeling all over the place. I have read quite a few books on ADHD, some are too clinical, lengthy, wordy with too much jargon. This is the one that I will keep going back to for help. It is very practical in the sense that one can zoom in and focus and work through the issue without going one big loop."
Mrs Woo
Parent of ADHD Youth
"Reading this book, I could feel the amount of care and love Jerome has for parents of ADHD kids. It really touched my heart, that he would care enough to put out a book for parents such as myself."
Mrs Loo Po Li
Parent of ADHD Youth
"I'm moved by the really realistic examples and actionable strategies given. It seems like this is a work from the heart and from real experience. I can see many similarities between these situations and those in my own family dynamics. I think this is going to make a big difference for many Singapore families who might not have as much understanding and exposure to a condition like ADHD."
SL
ADHD Youth
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- ✓Limited Charity Edition — Only 500 copies
- ✓50% Net Proceeds to the 2 ADHD Charities — Unlocking ADHD & SPARK Singapore
- ✓Ships May 9, 2026 — Official launch date
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